Mourning the loss of what you never had.
Let go of the demand and revert to hope.
Now you're off the path which so often leads to sad.
A couple of weeks ago someone gave me an undertaking in connection with a significant business transaction. A decision would be made on a given day which would present me with a particular opportunity. (Yes, I'm being deliberately cagey about this as the transaction must remain under wraps for a while longer.) The big day came and went and I was told the decision would be postponed for a month or two.
The reasons for the delay don't really matter. What did matter was that I felt overwhelmed with rage at being let down, telling myself that I was unimportant in the other person's life, that I just had to paddle my own canoe and so on.
When I explored my mental state a bit more, I realized how much I had expected this deal to happen just the way I saw it and how much I was already counting on it happening within a certain time. My rage was about not having something which, ironically, I never had in the first place.
In my reactive state I was ready to walk away from the deal, I was so hacked off. Once I had figured out and worked through some of Life's truths (as opposed to my own realities), I was able to make some choices. The big one was simply to let it be. To let go every expectation I had about the event happening and continue living my life to the full, rather than putting it on hold for this opportunity. Although I am still hopeful that the deal will happen, I am completely at peace with and grateful for my life, just as it is. I truly don't mind whether the deal happens or not.
Either way I am presented with wonderful possibilities and all that I am called to do is explore them.