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Thursday, 1 January 2015


First of all, happy New Year to you and welcome to 2015!  And having said that, have you thought about your New Year's resolutions yet?  Any realistic chance of actually achieving them?  Not sure?

"The road to hell is paved with distractions from good intentions."
Dr K. Bradford Brown

I don't know what the statistics are for New Year's resolutions actually realised, but I suspect that the percentage is pretty low.  They always sound grand, but when the time comes for putting your shoulder to the wheel, something more important seems to come up.  So here are some suggestions.

First, let's consider what a RESOLUTION might entail.  Perhaps it should be some or all of the following: Realistic, Easy, Sensible, Optional, Life-changing, Unusual, Time-based, Inspiring, On-going and Now (i.e. don't put it off - start now).

Secondly, in that context, I want to suggest a set of universal resolutions for 2015 which you can use (or not), adapt however you wish, but which will align with the keywords from the RESOLUTION acronym above and not require any more of your time or resources than you already use.

1. Take a long moment to acknowledge yourself for all that you achieved in 2014.  Also acknowledge yourself for being the precious person you are and what you bring to the world.  Make your acknowledgement real by writing yourself a letter or recording a voice note to yourself. (This resolution is important - no one's going to do this for you.)

2. Heal a relationship: Be the first one to take a noble step towards healing any dysfunctional relationship in your life and then keep rebuilding and maintaining the relationship.

3. Heal yourself.  Make any meaningful change to your eating or physical habits to enhance your health.

4. Complete at least one piece of unfinished or incomplete business in your life: You could, for instance:  Apologize for something you did or didn't do; repay a debt; ask someone for forgiveness; finish off a job; tidy your office; forgive yourself for anything you've been beating yourself up on; start meditating; or a myriad of other stuff which might be unfinished.

5. Hang out with people who matter to you and who add value to your life rather than those who drain you.

6. Tell someone whom you love that you love him/her, and why. Do it frequently.  It's not a tick-box exercise.

7. Stop demanding (and hoping) that things should be different.  If you want something to change, take your own positive steps to bring about the change you want.  In any event, choose one meaningful thing that you want to change in your life.  Give it a date by which you want the change to be effected, identify some realistic and doable action steps, start doing them and tell someone about the change you are making.

8. Identify one thing about which you are (or can become) passionate.  Start doing it - passionately.

9. Do something genuinely altruistic and for the greater good - whatever you do, however big or small, and whether it's helping the plight of rhinos, raising AIDS awareness, saving rain-forests, campaigning against fireworks on New Year's eve or doing your bit for global warming, do it with intent, do it within your means and capacity and do it for all of our children and grandchildren.

10. Each day, no matter what is happening in your life, find at least one thing for which you are genuinely grateful and joyous and engage fully with your gratitude and joy.

11. Lighten up!

There is nothing in the above list which is beyond you or which will take up time you think you don't have.  The only thing that might be a bit extra in your life is item 9, but you can do everything else within the context and time constraints of your life as you presently know it.

No matter what 2014 looked like for you and the world, 2015 can be a terrific year.  It's up to you. Cheers!

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